Why Does God answer other people’s prayers and not ours it seems?
The question is ‘how do we get our prayers answered’? Jesus said in Mark 11:24;
Therefore, I say unto you, “For this reason I am telling you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe (trust and be confident) that it is granted to you, and you will [get it].” Also the Apostle Paul said in the book of Philippians 4:6; “Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.”
We are to pray, believe that God heard our prayer and believe that the answer to our prayer is granted to us. The waiting part is hard sometimes, but we cannot compare ourselves to others when it comes to answered prayer. There are some things we can do to get our prayers answered and some things to take in consideration. Here they are…
1. Doing the Father’s will
I can of myself do nothing: as I hear, I judge: and my judgment is righteous; because I seek not mine own will, but the will of him that sent me. – John 5:30
We are called to follow Jesus as Christians. It isn’t always easy doing the will of the Father. Jesus experienced that in the Garden of Gethsemane. Before he was taken to be crucified on the cross he said,” And he said, Abba, Father, all things are possible unto thee; take away this cup from me: nevertheless, not what I will, but what thou wilt. (KJV). As we live our lives being in the will of God and doing what the word of God says helps for our prayers to be answered. Doing your will and not the Father’s will is a hindrance to getting your prayers answered. Things like unforgiveness, not walking in love can hinder your prayers. We need to make sure we are following what the Bible says to do for our lives.
2. Talk to God about how you feel
Do not fret or have any anxiety about anything, but in every circumstance and in everything, by prayer and petition (definite requests), with thanksgiving, continue to make your wants known to God, and God's peace [shall be yours, that tranquil state of a soul assured of its salvation through Christ] which transcends all understanding shall garrison and mount guard over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Phil. 4:6
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you. – Ephesians 4:6 – 9
It is important that you talk to God about how you feel. This is important to getting through those lonely times. These scriptures show us what to do. We are to tell God how we feel in prayer and then think on things that are of a good report. God doesn’t want us to think on sad things, but on good things. This is important in keeping your faith for what you are believing God for. Always remember that God is for you, not against you. (Romans 8:28, 31 & 32)
3. We are all in this together & God’s timing
1 Corinthians 12:26
And if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; or if one member is honored, all the members rejoice with it.
When you are hurting, all of us in the body of Christ hurts. When some other woman gets a husband, she is blessed and that means the whole body of Christ is blessed. That means if God hasn’t forgotten her, God will not forget you because God is no respecter of persons, he treats everyone the same.
But now hath God set the members every one of them in the body, as it hath pleased him. – 1 Corinthians 12:18
When another woman gets a husband, it is God’s timing for her to get a husband. We can’t determine the timing God has for us and others. We live for the Lord and trust that his timing is best. Is it easy? Sometimes it is not easy, but this is why we need friends and Christian fellowship to help us get by the tough seasons of loneliness. This is what this singles ministry is here for to help you get through tough times.
4. Follow the leading of the Lord
The spirit of man is the candle of the Lord searching all the inward parts of the belly. - Proverbs 20:27. This means God will enlighten you through your spirit. God will speak to you through your spirit man. We are a three part being. We are a spirit, we have a soul (mind, emotions & will) and we live in a body. Since God is a spirit and he lives in our spirit, that is where he will speak to us.
When you meet a Christian man the Lord will let you know on the inside of your spirit whether he is the one for you or not. Follow the Lord. Do not rely on your own judgement. You will be glad you did. Give it time, don’t rush when you first meet a Christian man. Give it some time to test the fruit of his life and you will be able to see more clearly.
5. Once you meet a Christian man…
Once you meet a Christian man, observe him and how he lives his life by how he treats other people. Give it some time, you at first will meet his ‘representative’ and then the ‘first impression guard’ goes down and you will begin to see the real person later on. Ask good friends what they think of him. Sometimes we can’t see everything about a person right away because our emotions are beginning to get involved in our relationship with this guy and our emotions can blind us. So remember to observe him for a while before you decide he might be good for you and pray to God about it and follow your spirit (heart) where God will lead you. Use wisdom and take things one day at a time. God hasn’t forgotten you, and if you have a desire for a husband, God will give you one in his timing. God’s timing is the best timing and you will be glad you did it God’s way!
If you need more encouragement in this area you can contact us and Pastor Mary will be happy to speak with you and pray with you concerning this matter or for any situation. God bless you.